No B.S. — the real pros and cons of living alone in that trendy loft you always wanted
Anyone who has ever spent a night in a dorm bunk bed has felt the intense longing for a place all to one’s self. No more being sexiled by your swaggering roommate on Friday night, or waking up Saturday to her dirty laundry all over the floor… Is there anything better?
But living alone in a loft has drawbacks, too. Being alone, for instance.
So how do you know whether living by yourself is for you? Do what your dad is always telling you to do: Make a pros and cons list. Check out ours for inspiration. (It’s OK, you can just copy it.)
- Increased privacy. Want to dance in your underwear to Taylor Swift, while eating a slice of pizza and talking to yourself? Go ahead. Want to watch eight hours of Netflix documentaries about different species of bears? Party on. If you live alone, no one will judge you.
- Your mess is your own. Your loft may be filthy, but it will be your filth. Leftover Indian food rotting in the fridge is a lot more infuriating if it’s not yours. Not having a roommate frees you from his mess and allows you to focus on your own.
- The decorations, too. How many ugly couches have you had to compromise over? How many times have you had to look at this stupid poster? Now you can make your place look like a dungeon if you want, or the inside of a West Elm. Whatever floats your boat.
- Massive, soul-crushing, incapacitating loneliness. Have you ever spent the afternoon talking to yourself in funny voices? Have you arranged and re-arranged your furniture, just for something to do? Have you ever just at in your living room and stared at a blank wall, watching the light slowly move across it?
- Money. Your roommate may be good for something: a paycheck. Now that you live alone, you’ll be the only person putting money toward rent, furniture, food, and utilities.
- Parties. It’s harder to throw a party when it’s just you in the apartment. Not only is it more expensive, it’s higher-risk. There’s no one to share the blame if things go sour and your old high school drill team partner throws a baton through a window, or if she doesn’t come and no one else does either. That’s a lot of responsibility.
Got it? Let’s be real, the PROS probably outweigh the CONS, and chances are, if you’re already thinking about flying solo in your next apartment, you have enough money to do so. What, then, do you do about MASSIVE LONELINESS? Here are a few tips to help you stay sane.
- Look for an apartment complex with plenty of shared spaces. Pools, exercise rooms, media centers — these are places to meet people and establish new friendships close to home.
- Try to locate your new place in a part of town where other people like to go. Being close to nightlife isn’t just socially convenient for you — it’s also convenient for the friends you already have. They’ll be more likely to visit you, and you’ll be more likely to branch outside your pre-existing social groups.
- Don’t rent a tiny shoebox that can only fit one person comfortably. This isn’t a Japanese coffin hotel — try to find a place large enough to accommodate a guest or two. That way, you can have people over for dinner, drinks, or other social occasions, and show off the fact that you don’t live in an airless hole in the ground.
- Look for pet-friendly apartments, and if you don’t have a pet, buy one, and if you don’t have money for a pet, search the internet for cute dog pictures and plaster them all over your walls. That will definitely make you feel better.